Thanks to COVID, we have all spent a lot more time at home. We probably have had more family time than ever before. I don’t know about you, but at times I have struggled to maintain my peace. So, I have thought of a few tips that have worked for me that I would like to share. Ready? Here we go.
1. Be Grateful and Say So
The number one thing that has helped me the most during this time is purposefully focusing on gratitude. It lowers my anxiety, brings peace and good feelings, helps me to be in a good mood, and helps me to have a positive attitude. Not only that, but God says, “In all things, give thanks!”
Not only that, but it is tough to be upset with someone who is walking around with gratitude!
That’s why I believe we need to take a fresh look at ourselves and the importance of having a thankful attitude toward God.
What the Israelites Couldn’t Figure Out
After Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt, they grumbled, murmured, and complained. They didn’t like his leadership, and they were tired of eating manna. They actually wanted to go back to Egypt where they were beaten and forced to work long hours in the sun.
The Israelites thought their enemies were the reason they couldn’t get to the Promised Land, but it was their attitude that kept them wandering around in the wilderness (Numbers 11). All they needed to do was be positive.
Now, think about the things in your life that you were so excited about when God first blessed you– they may be the very thing you complain about today!
The nature of human flesh, if it is not disciplined and controlled by the Holy Spirit, will always drift toward the negative. You never have to try to complain, but it does take a lot of faith and effort to maintain a grateful, thankful attitude.
Appreciating Your Time in the Wilderness
You may think it a little bit strange, but I think we need to learn to appreciate our trials a lot more because they’re what make us grow and mature in godly character.
You see, in hard times, we tend to experience more of His nearness and power in our lives. It’s in those times that we really come to know Him.
Complaining actually opens a door for the devil. We need to learn to thank God for everything.
Don’t go to lunch with someone and spend the whole time talking about your problems. Remember, recall, and recount the good things God is doing in your life.
Talk about your Red Sea moments. Remember the manna He gave you last week. Remember the resurrections you’ve had in your life. The Bible says to fix your mind on those things that are worthy of praise (see Philippians 4:8). Remember those things. Talk about those things.
I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy to do. It’s much easier to make excuses and feel sorry for yourself because things will happen to you that don’t seem fair. The key is to keep saying, “I trust You, God, and I believe You will work it all out for my good.”
The Benefit of Believing God
It’s a wonderful thing that God has done for us that we can look at a negative thing positively and say, “You cannot defeat me because God is on my side.”
I want to have a good attitude because that’s what will glorify God. He has promised that if we do three simple things—continue to pray, to love Him, and to want His will—that all things will work together for our good (see Romans 8:28). That’s a 100 percent, ironclad guarantee that no matter how messy life gets, God will make good out of it. If you want victory in your life, all you have to do is adopt a lifestyle of thanksgiving.
If you can manage to be thankful in every situation, believing that God is working everything out for your good, you will end up with the victory every single time.
2. Instead of Complaining, Sing to God
Complaining, grumbling, murmuring, and faultfinding have power – but it is negative power. Each time we give our minds and mouths over to any of it, we give Satan a power over us that God has not authorized him to have. Set your mind today to get rid of these negative thoughts and tap into the power of God’s Word.
Sing a song to God, any song. You can make it up. Sometimes I even sing the Mass parts. OK, I know it may sound cheesy, but try it!
Save Us, Savior of the World, By your Cross and Resurrection, You have set us Free. I think about our local church and how I love listening to the Gospel Choir. I love the way they sing the Mass parts. Oh, when I can’t think of anything else, I will pick a Mass part. I feel like the biggest nerd admitting it, but it works for me, it really does.
So, go ahead. Pick a phrase or a song and walk around singing it in your home while you are doing the laundry or cooking, etc. Tell me if it helps.
3. Instead of Worrying, Remember What God Has Done for You
Scripture says for us to make a book of remembrance. When I start doubting or worrying or getting frustrated because things aren’t going my way, I can get anxious very easily.
All these thoughts and feelings create doubt. Then doubt brings anxiety, and it makes me question my role and God’s role. Look out, it’s a trap !
You may be thinking, I just can’t help it…I wish I could believe and not doubt. But the truth is, you can! God wouldn’t tell us to believe in Him if it wasn’t possible for us to do it. We can defeat doubt and unbelief if we know how to do it.
So how do we do it? How do we believe God and live by faith? Romans 10:17 tells us how: Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God. The key here is the Word of God. We need to love the Word of God and go after it like we go after food when we’re really hungry. When we’re hungry, we’ll usually do what we need to do to get food.
God’s Word is medicine for our soul and the food we need to keep our spirit strong. It has the inherent power to change our lives when mixed with faith. As you study and speak the Word, be sure to also talk about the good things God has done and not the problems. Decide to doubt your doubts!
So, God’s Word tells us to remember. The great heroes of faith remembered as they prayed, and we can too. It’s called the
YOU are the Lord of my life, my heart, and my home.
WHO (Make a remembrance list here) You are the same God that made Heaven and Earth, parted the Red Sea, and sent us Jesus and the Holy Spirit. You are the same God who provided my home, my job, and sent me my husband. You created me with a purpose. You love me unconditionally.
DO Please bring Peace in my home, help me to set my thoughts on you and your goodness. Please help me to be peaceful and have a good attitude.
THROUGH the power of the Holy Spirit and the intercession of Our Lady.
4. Put on the Shoes of Peace
Ok, we have all heard the Scripture, “Put on the Armor of God,” right? I recently learned about the shoes of peace, which are pretty amazing. The armor of God is compared to the way the Romans soldiers dressed. Of course, this is written from Paul, a former Roman soldier, so he knows what he is talking about !
So, the Roman soldier’s “shoes” were more like cleats with large metal plates that went into the ground. The purpose of the metal plates is so that if an enemy would try to push them or fight the soldier, they were able to hold their ground, keep their balance, or remain stable more easily.
Anyone here looking to hold your ground, have more balance, or remain stable more easily?
Ohhh, pick me!
So, we put on our shoes of peace.
5. Decide to Be at Peace No Matter What
You might be thinking, that’s so much easier said than done, right? Well, then start by saying it! “I am at peace.“ “I walk in peace.“ “Peace is in me.” “I carry peace with me everywhere I go.”
Then, make a decision to carry peace with you no matter what is going on in your home or within you.
Recently, my husband and I got into a disagreement. Following the conversation, I felt hurt and disappointed and extremely frustrated as the same disagreement frequently resurfaces. I thought it was very important to let him know how I felt about the situation, including a description of why a different action in the future is needed. Sound potentially bossy and controlling? I thought so, too, but I was “ justified” in my feelings and for what I was about to say.
Suddenly, before I confronted him, I felt a tug to walk away instead. Reluctantly, I knew the tug was from the Holy Spirit, probably trying to help me. I went outside to the patio and asked the Holy Spirit to direct my thoughts and words so I could clearly communicate my stance on the issue as I stood there with my hand on my hip.
I felt led to Proverbs 17. Ready for this? Below I share the verses most relevant to me in the chapter.
Better is a dry morsel with quiet
than a house full of feasting with strife.
He who forgives an offense seeks love,
but he who repeats a matter alienates a friend.
If a man returns evil for good,
evil will not depart from his house.
The beginning of strife is like letting out water;
so quit before the quarrel breaks out.
He who loves transgression loves strife;
he who makes his door high seeks destruction.
A man of crooked mind does not prosper,
and one with a perverse tongue falls into distress.
A cheerful heart is a good medicine,
but a downcast spirit dries up the bones.
He who restrains his words has knowledge,
and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.
Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise;
when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.”
Reading Proverbs 17 helped me to walk back into my home, deciding to be at peace. I decided to no longer discuss anything and let God handle it. Guess what?! The next morning, my husband graciously apologized. It was so much better than dragging it out of him or continuing to fight a battle when God clearly needed to step in for that one. That’s why I needed to walk away and let God handle it. I was headed for a disaster if I would have told him everything I was thinking and feeling.
When we are at peace, we are firmly planted and not easily pushed over by the world around us. So, make a decision and walk in peace.
In conclusion, I hope you find these tips helpful. Please try any of them and let me know if anything helped you to have more peace!